“Sometimes you have to let go of the picture of what you thought life would be like and learn to find joy in the story you are actually living.” – Rachel Marie Martin
In an age where the average person spends over four hours of their day on their phone it becomes hard to have a genuinely present connection with people. More often than not you will become distracted by texts, tweets, new uploads, and the latest scandal, all while trying to carry on a simple conversation. While living in this age of technology and social media has it’s perks, however it can also be pretty detrimental to one’s self-esteem. It is nice to be able to keep up with my friend’s and family’s adventures and all the beautiful things that are happening, but on the other hand it is easy to very quickly feel insecure about the path my life is taking.
I have recently been working on living a more “beautiful” and in tune life, not so I can post about it, but so I can genuinely enjoy the life I am living. So often we are out looking for the most Instagram-able moments, the funniest things to tweet about, or the next thing we can post about. As a society we are so focused on beauty, luxury, success, and wealth. We have become so fixated on these things that we forget our personal goals and desires and lose our happiness in pursuit of living this “perfect” and “ideal” life.
As I get closer to the end of my teenage years “keeping up” becomes more and more daunting. I see people I graduated with who are getting engaged, married, starting families, and buying homes. It can become very easy to get wrapped up in all of these successes, but you have to remember not many people post about the reality of the situations or the struggles and failures that got them to the place they are in now, just the beautiful parts. Social media encourages us to put our best foot forward, its like a website dedicated to a forever first impression. Think about how many times you have looked at a picture or read a post and made assumptions just off of that brief interaction. I know I am guilty of it myself.
I type this just as much for myself as for anyone else. I struggle with comparing myself and my timeline to other’s. I am constantly reminding myself to put down my phone and pay attention to the people I am with. In doing all of this I have learned to find the joys in small things such as: conversations that last into the early hours of the morning, sharing meals with people you love, car rides with loud music, sunsets, and the small labors of love that are happening all around me. I encourage all of you to go a little while without looking at your social media and instead spend time with the ones you love. Work on finding the joy in the simpler things life has to offer.
P.S. The album suggestion for this post is Where the Light Is: John Mayer live in Los Angeles